Theme: July Uniqueness
At a marriage and family conference (Association for Marriage and Families Ministry -AMFM) I recently learned most people marry someone who complements them (not compliments!). We often marry our opposite. Introverts typically marry extroverts. This has the potential to cause friction but it has a greater ability to bring balance. Once an appreciation for the other’s personality has been developed, each one can more readily accept and learn from the other. When Tom and I realized he’s extroverted and I’m introverted many potential conflicts were prevented. We’ve found it helpful to identify the extrovert/introvert characteristic in our kids too. Two of our kids need more space and alone time than the other two. When driving one child home after school, she’d describe her day-start to finish. As opposed to her sister who would enter the car and be quiet, decompressing from the day.
Parenting Tip: Begin to notice how your family members are wired. Is time alone needed to re-energize or does being with people bring vigor? Adjust expectations accordingly.
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About the Author
Lori Wildenberg is a licensed parent and family educator, parent coach, and co-founder of 1Corinthians13 Parenting.com. She has written 6 books including Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home; The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections; and her most recent book, Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation. Contact Lori for your next event or for parent consulting or parent training courses. Lori can also be found mentoring over at the MOMS Together Group on Facebook.