Have you ever had a situation where someone at work, in your neighborhood, in your circle of friends, or in your family has made you mad? I’m guessing… yes.
What do you do? What do I do?
We have a big decision to make. If you are like me you have a real preference on what you may want to do but it messes with what you (and I) ought to do.
To whom to you go for guidance?
The only way for you and me to get smart is to stop asking our sympathetic friends.
I am totally guilt of this.
When I am questioning something, do I seek wise counsel (someone who may not tell me what I want to hear but it is what I need to hear.) or do I ask my sweet friends (the ones who will tell me what I want to hear)?
That leads me to my next thought. Do I really want to hear something that may challenge or convict me? Or do I just want to feel good and justified?
Truthfully, I like to be affirmed. I like to be agreed with. I like to be told, “You did the right thing.”
I phone a friend. A sweet one.
Part of being in the body of Christ is being able to talk with a person who can provide wise counsel and biblical advice. God places certain folks in our lives so we can learn, stretch, and be challenged. So we can become all that he wants us to be.
Newsflash: He wants me to be more like Jesus…and less like…me.
I need support to do that. Of course I need my friends. And I am thankful most of them are really smart…spiritually smart. And I also need to be apart of a community, a church where I can be accountable; a place where I can grow in Christ. And maybe help someone else along the way.
So I’m going to start using my head and seek wise (unbiased) counsel when I am wrestling with something. I’m going to give my friends “permission” to love me by being truthful. (Okay..with the understanding they be gentle in the process! )
To do life well we need to be wise; use our heads and put our heads together. We aren’t meant to do life alone.We need one another. And we need truth with grace.
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About the Author
Lori Wildenberg is a licensed parent and family educator, parent coach, and co-founder of 1Corinthians13 Parenting.com. She has written 6 books including Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home; The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections; and her most recent book, Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation. Contact Lori for your next event or for parent consulting or parent training courses. Lori can also be found mentoring over at the MOMS Together Group on Facebook.