Church should be a safe place.
On Wednesday, June 17, 2015 nine people were gunned down in cold blood while attending a Bible study and prayer meeting.
Women and men from the ages of twenty to eighty-seven.
Mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, grandparents, a librarian, a pastor.
Nine people of color.
A racially motivated hate crime.
I don’t live in South Carolina. What can I do?
I can do plenty in my sphere of influence and so can you.
As my good friend Nina (an African American woman) says, “We can’t legislate hate out of someone’s heart.”
So what can we do?
We start at home. We parent to the heart of our kids.
We raise them, train them, educate them, and instruct them on how to love others as they love themselves; to love God and love people.
We can be part of the solution. We can do something about this. We can build the bridge between cultures, races, and socioeconomic groups.
We can raise up the next generation differently.
As Ben Carson said on Thursday, he hopes America can “rise above hatred and join hands.”
While Nina and I talked, we came up with some principles and some approaches moms and dads can use in their own homes to end the hatred and ignorance prejudice produces.
- To understand all people are created in God’s image. As God’s image bearers we all have worth, value, and purpose.
- To believe we are family, brothers and sisters. We are unified in Christ.
- To know we are created uniquely. Differences in skin color should be celebrated not feared.
- To experience empathy by personalizing situations. “The eight-seven-year-old gunned down, could have been my parent, grand or great-grand parent.”
- We move outside of our comfort zone and introduce our children to people of other cultures and socioeconomic groups. Perhaps go downtown to a shelter and participate in feeding the homeless.
- We develop relationships with people different from ourselves.
- We ask them about their story, their experiences.
- We do life together. Hang-out, socialize, laugh and cry together.
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About the Author
Lori Wildenberg is a licensed parent and family educator, parent coach, and co-founder of 1Corinthians13 Parenting.com. She has written 6 books including Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home; The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections; and her most recent book, Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation. Contact Lori for your next event or for parent consulting or parent training courses. Lori can also be found mentoring over at the MOMS Together Group on Facebook.