The truth is I am guilty of body shaming.
The body I verbally attack is not my enemies. It’s not a person in the public eye. It’s the one I see in the mirror.
I say things like:
“I am soooooo fat.”
“I need to ______(eat less, exercise more, go on a diet).”
“I look like a box.”
Ohhh…I don’t stop there.
I don’t just body shame, I me shame.
“I am soooo dumb.”
“Why do I say such stupid things?”
“I am such an idiot.”
I would never talk to another human the way in which I speak to myself.
I don’t keep my self talk to myself. Yep, I verbalize it. I’m selective though. I only speak like this at home.
And my kids are all ears.
Shaming is contagious.
Do you do this too?
Shame can manifest itself in substance abuse, broken relationships, cutting, anxiety, and eating disorders.
We know we need to stop.
I don’t want to create an environment in my home that breeds shame.
Our kids are bombarded with impossible to achieve body images all the time.
In London, Sadiq Khan, a new mayor is planning on putting a ban on body shaming images in ads on public transportation.
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Lori Wildenberg is a licensed parent and family educator, parent coach, and co-founder of 1Corinthians13 Parenting.com. She has written 6 books including Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home; The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections; and her most recent book, Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation. Contact Lori for your next event or for parent consulting or parent training courses. Lori can also be found mentoring over at the MOMS Together Group on Facebook.