Lately I’ve been reflecting on things I would do differently if I could turn back time.
Here’s one of the things I would change if I could.
The First 5
When Tom came home from work, the kids (as littles) and dogs would happily greet him. I would be involved in making dinner. He’d greet the kids and pet the dogs then make his way to me. Tom knew the importance of the hello.
Why wouldn’t I stop and move to greet my husband? I would stop and greet a guest.
I consistently failed at those first 5 minutes. Why? Did I think my lack of stopping communicated how busy being a mom was? Did that somehow add importance to my role?
Some of my lack of slowing down could be attributed to me being task oriented. I was being a good worker bee but not a good spouse.
Eye contact, a smile, a hug, and an affectionate hello are small gestures that demonstrate love and show you value the relationship. These small gestures communicate, “I’m glad you are here.” Isn’t that a great way to begin time together?
Of course, the first five isn’t reserved just for couples, it is important in all relationships: parent-child, friendships, and even business relationships.
Here are some first five minutes to be aware of:
- First thing in the morning.
- After being apart and then coming back together post work or after school.
- Entering someone’s home as a guest.
- Receiving guests in your home.
Don’t be like me and take those first 5 minutes for granted. Instead the next time you have been apart for a bit, think of those first 5 and the tone you would like to set for your time together. A smile and a hug cost nothing and provide great dividends.
Thank the Lord everyday is a new day. I can’t change the past but I can change the present and future. I don’t have to rewind time. I can do my first 5 better. And…each new 24 hours presents many first 5 minutes.
So, what would you like to do over if you could? So now what?
Greet one another with a holy kiss.
2 Corinthians 13:12