Theme for January: Renewal and Resolution
2012 is here. Many New Year’s resolutions will be made and most broken. When I resolve to avoid dessert, chocolate is all I want- it’s all I think about. Maybe sugar isn’t one of your temptations but you can relate. Really…why is that? Answer: personal cravings, sinful nature. Rather than tell myself “no sweat treats” I need to adjust my thinking. “I’ll have an orange for dessert” or “I can have dessert on the weekends.” Telling myself what I can do is more effective than saying what I can’t do. What I can’t do, I want to do. Retraining the thought process renews the mind.
Happy New Year! (I think I’ll go with the weekend option for dessert!)
Tell your children what they can do rather than state what they can’t. Ex.: “Sit on the slide” rather than, “Don’t stand on the slide.” Or for the teen,”Drive the speed limit” instead of, “Don’t speed.”
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About the Author
Lori Wildenberg is a licensed parent and family educator, parent coach, and co-founder of 1Corinthians13 Parenting.com. She has written 6 books including Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home; The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections; and her most recent book, Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation. Contact Lori for your next event or for parent consulting or parent training courses. Lori can also be found mentoring over at the MOMS Together Group on Facebook.