Our words can bless or curse. Wound or heal. Build up or tear down.
Words. Are. Powerful.
I came across an article the other day about a seventh grade boy who posted on Instagram he was planning on committing suicide on his birthday. This young boy had been severely bullied. He had been wounded by other students’ words and actions.
While being hospitalized for treatment, the boy’s mom got an idea. She asked people on Facebook to send her son words of encouragement. He received THOUSANDS of responses. All uplifting and hopeful. The words of affirmation, affection, and love all made a difference in the boy’s perspective on his life and his future.
Healing had begun.
Moms and Dads, our words are powerful. As it says in Hebrews 3:13, “Encourage one another daily.” Our kids need to hear words that will be motivating and affirming. And… when you need to guide or correct your child, before speaking ask yourself, “Will my message or its delivery tear down my child?” If so, retrain yourself to offer correction in a way that is not hurtful. Here are three quick tips.
The ABC’s of Correction
* Avoid attacking your child’s “personhood”. Stick to the issue at hand. Seek to resolve the problem.
* Be aware of your nonverbal expressions. Avoid stomping, pointing, and exaggerating gestures.
* Change your tone. Be calm.
Parents, words can bring life….or death.
What will you choose today?
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About the Author
Lori Wildenberg is a licensed parent and family educator, parent coach, and co-founder of 1Corinthians13 Parenting.com. She has written 6 books including Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home; The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections; and her most recent book, Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation. Contact Lori for your next event or for parent consulting or parent training courses. Lori can also be found mentoring over at the MOMS Together Group on Facebook.