In Scripture we can read the commands given to fathers regarding their role in the family. The ideal dad is the spiritual leader (Josh. 24:15), holds a position of authority in the family (Deut. 32:7), teaches his children ( Proverbs 1:8), provides financially (Matthew 6:25-34), and seeks Jesus for the needs of his kids (Matthew 17:14-18).
The Bible presents the role of father as one that carries a sense of dignity and great worth. Our modern culture down plays the critical role of the dad. Being a father is an honor the Lord gives a man. An honor that carries with it a load of responsibility. I guess that’s why respect is so important to men.
So… wives (the dads are going to love me for this!) what do you do to build up your husband in the eyes of his children? Do you demonstrate respect for him-even in the midst of a disagreement? I have to say I have failed more often than I’ve done it right. I was blown away by a friend of mine when she said she never sides with the kids over her husband, until they are behind closed doors. She knows the proper time and place for a “conversation”. Wise wife, good mom. Great model for her daughters (and for me).
Dads, are you behaving in a way that shows you value your God -given role? Are you leading your family in spiritual matters? Do you use your authority in a loving way? Do you take time to instruct your children? Are you providing for your family? Do you pray for your children?
The role of dad is a hard one. Wives do everything you can to support and encourage your husband in his role as a father.
The tip today is more of a spouse tip. Wives stop what you are doing and greet your husband when he arrives home. When he has taken care of something on the “honey do” list encourage him. Support him in his efforts to lead the family.
Happy Father’s Day!
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About the Author
Lori Wildenberg is a licensed parent and family educator, parent coach, and co-founder of 1Corinthians13 Parenting.com. She has written 6 books including Messy Journey: How Grace and Truth Offer the Prodigal a Way Home; The Messy Life of Parenting: Powerful and Practical Ways to Strengthen Family Connections; and her most recent book, Messy Hope: Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety, Depression, or Suicidal Ideation. Contact Lori for your next event or for parent consulting or parent training courses. Lori can also be found mentoring over at the MOMS Together Group on Facebook.